„Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves.”
— Rainer Maria Rilke
As coaches, we often guide our clients through uncertainty, helping them navigate transitions and find clarity. But what happens when we, too, find ourselves in that space—wondering what’s next, feeling the discomfort of not knowing?
It’s easy to believe we should have it all figured out by now. That uncertainty is a problem to be solved. But what if not knowing is not a roadblock, but an invitation? Some of the most transformative moments in our lives—new relationships, career shifts, unexpected opportunities—were once just unknowns.
Instead of rushing to find immediate answers, we can learn to trust the space in between. Uncertainty is not the absence of direction—it’s the presence of possibility.
The Gift of Not Knowing
We often treat uncertainty as something to fix, as if clarity is the only goal. But what if this phase—the in-between space—is exactly where we’re meant to be?
Not knowing is an opening, not an obstacle. It’s a moment where creativity and intuition can thrive, where we allow the right opportunities to unfold rather than forcing what’s next. When we resist the urge to rush forward, we create space for insights, inspiration, and alignment to emerge naturally.
Instead of seeing uncertainty as a problem, what if we embraced it as part of our evolution?
Redefining “Not Knowing”
We often equate uncertainty with being lost, but what if it actually means we’re in the middle of growth? Instead of viewing it as a gap to be filled, we can recognize it as a powerful stage of transformation.
🔹 Not knowing is a sign of growth. Just like a seed beneath the soil before it sprouts, unseen progress is happening even when we can’t yet see it.
🔹 Not knowing invites curiosity. When we don’t have all the answers, we remain open—open to new perspectives, creative solutions, and possibilities we might not have considered before.
🔹 Not knowing builds resilience. Every time we’ve faced uncertainty in the past, we’ve found a way through. We are more capable than we realize.
🔹 Not knowing creates space for something greater. Sometimes, not having immediate clarity prevents us from making choices that don’t truly align. The pause allows something even better to emerge.
From Uncertainty to Clarity: A Coaching Perspective
When we work with clients, we remind them that the future is not just about what they achieve—it’s about who they are becoming. That same wisdom applies to us. Instead of asking, “What should I do?”, we can shift the focus to, “Who am I becoming?”
The next chapter will reveal itself in time. Until then, trust the process. Lean into the unknown. The answers will come—not when we force them, but when we’re ready to receive them.
What’s Next for You?
If you find yourself in a season of uncertainty, take a moment to reflect: What if this phase is shaping you in ways you don’t yet see? What if, instead of resisting it, you embraced it?
We invite you to share your experiences and insights in our ICF Romania community. How have you navigated the unknown in your coaching journey? What lessons have emerged from moments of uncertainty? Let’s continue the conversation—because growth happens when we learn from each other.
🔹 Join the discussion in our next ICF Romania event or connect with fellow coaches to explore these questions together. The best insights often come when we embrace the journey, not just the destination.
Despre autor
Daiana STOICESCU
– is an executive coach for leaders, with a Master Certified Coach (MCC) Credential by the International Coach Federation (ICF), a Master Certified Coach Trainer (MCCT), Coach Supervisor and a Registered ICF Mentor Coach. She was also the President of the ICF Romania Chapter until 2019.
As a Master Certified Coach (MCC), she works with leaders-from startup entrepreneurs to C-level executives- who have bold visions and who play for high stakes.
As a Master Certified Coach Trainer (MCCT) with the Center for Executive Coaching (CEC) she is Certified to train other executives and managers to become Certified Executive Coaches. She does this through one-on-one or group coaching and under the review and standards of the Center for Executive Coaching.
As a Certified Mentor Coach by ICF, she is certified to offer mentor coaching programs for coaches interested in applying or renewing their ACC (Associate Certified Coach), PCC (Professional Certified Coach), or MCC (Master Certified Coach) Credential and need the required 10 hours of mentoring.
As a Coach Supervisor she works with leaders and entrepreneurs that take their work seriously enough to set up a reflective space where they can review that work, learn from it and apply that learning when they return to it. She also works with coaches who bring their work to another individual/or group in order to learn how to do that work better. One way of describing what coaching supervision does is to think of it as a process of Reflection, Insight and Support.
As a Systemic Team Coach she enables teams to identify and resolve their challenges over a programme lasting seven to nine months – resulting in deeper learning and more sustainable change. It usually involves coaching the team together as well as one-to-one coaching for individuals.
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